Grief

I typically write based on what seems to be going on around me. The most common thing I am currently seeing when working with clients and even in my own life is that of grief. Grief is defined as deep sorrow, especially that is caused by someone's death. 

There are two sides of grief one the loss of a physical presences.  The person, animal, your health, a relationship that may be gone, there is an ache for the loss.  The other part of that is the loss of what might have been. 

For myself I have lost a companion, our dog was hit by a car and killed.  Now don't get me wrong I am not comparing her death to that of a person, however it is the grief that I am dealing with.  I am truly saddened by the lack of her presence in my life.  She had a fun and spunky personality and always helped me to see the excitement happening in the simplest of things.  Her physical presence is no longer here and that leaves an emptiness that's hard to explain.  The other part is when I think of the future, the things I had in store for our adventures, she was only 2 so i figured we would have much more time together.  Sometimes thinking of the future with whoever or whatever we are missing makes it hard to look forward with any hope at all. 

The truth is that there is no easy way to deal with our grief.   Quite often people will turn to unhealthy coping mechanism, thinking it will dull the pain.  Sometimes that will work for a while, but most often what happens is it all comes back and usually in an even more intense way.  I think it is important to talk about the loss, and to let out all that we are feeling on the inside.  Self care is an important part of grief, eating regularly and getting the sleep our body needs.  Putting one foot in front of the other even if its baby steps, trying to get back to a healthy daily routine.  I also find flower essences and essential oils a great way to help when dealing with loss.  Mostly I think time is what is needed in the end to heal the wounds.

I have heard it said "Grief only exists where love lived first"